I love the holidays, decorating, spending time with family and friends, cooking & sharing delicious food, and picking out gifts I think people will really like.
I also don’t love the holidays, the extra cleaning, wrapping presents (so annoying and time-consuming), getting out of my normal routines feels stressful, the high expectations for picture-perfect events often leads to stress or disappointment when people inevitably act like imperfect humans and did I mention the extra cleaning, dishes, and laundry?
So here’s what I would suggest, if I may. Make your own list of the things that you love about the holidays and the things that you don’t. You are not a grinch or a whiner because you don’t love all the things! You are a human who needs grace, help, self-care, and to know that it’s ok to like some parts of something and not others.
First look at your list of things you don’t love, with an open heart and open mind. Brainstorm 10 ways you could do things differently for each one. Try these on for size and come up with your own as well. Let’s use baking pies as an example but know that this process can be applied to everything on your list.
I’m sure you can tell I’m just kidding with number ten, or am I......
The best part of coming up with ten or more ideas is that it’s fun and can often lead to even more creative solutions. You may just end up not cooking at all and having an amazing day and a fancy dinner with no dishes to wash at all. All because you decided to listen to your heart and let go of something that doesn’t bring YOU joy.
Your holidays should have more of what lights you up and less of what doesn’t, and figuring out what these things are is the first step to a holiday season that fills your cup and doesn’t stress you out (too much).